A 20-year-old commercial sex worker has been arrested while attempting to throw her newborn baby away in Abuja

The police in Abuja, the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), have arrested a 20-year-old woman identified simply as Theresa, while attempting to dump her newborn baby at a refuse site in Kuchi Dena, a slum in the Gwarinpa area of the municipality.

Daily Trust reports that neighbours of the suspect, said to be a commercial sex worker, became suspicious about her movements and raised an alarm, leading to her arrest.
Police sources said the neighbours became curious after seeing Theresa’s protruding stomach occasioned by her pregnancy, becoming flat and they suspected that she might have delivered herself of the baby and killed it.
A resident in the community narrated that they were inquisitive and sought to know the content of a bucket she was carrying and when they checked, they found a newborn baby in the bucketand alerted the police and she was arrested.
It was gathered that during interrogation, Theresa confessed that she had delivered of the baby in her room all by herself and was trying to throw it away when the neighbours confronted her.
The Gwarinpa Divisional Police Officer (DPO), CSP Nurudden Sabo, who confirmed the incident, said the suspect confessed to have attempted to dispose of the baby suspecting that since the baby was lifeless, she might be accused of having killed it.
“We took her to the hospital and the doctor checked the baby and the mother. The doctor confirmed that it was stillborn. She was not the cause of death but an investigation is still on,” he said.
During her confession, she reportedly said she did not know the father of the baby and did not have the means to take care of it.

Grace Washeko had her ear eaten by Bor, the jealous lover of her husband.


The police in Kenya are reportedly on a look out for a woman named Bor, who allegedly bit off the ear of her lover's wife, Grace Washeko.

According to a report by The Star News, Bor visited the victim at her office when she engaged her and chewed part of her ear.
Washeko, who is now at the hospital for treatment reported the case to the police, who are not making efforts to apprehend the suspect.

Narrating the incident, the victim said, “She laughed at me saying she had taken my husband away. I got angry and we began fighting. She bit my ear and swallowed the piece.
“I don’t know what is wrong with my husband because whenever he comes back, he complains that he is sexually starved and hungry. He acts very abnormally.
“His parents have asked him to end the relationship with the 40-year old woman but my 27-year old husband has refused to heed their call."
Bor, who is said to be from the Voi area of Kenya is reported to be on the run having understood the magnitude of her violent act.
Antalyaspor's striker Samuel Eto'o talks during the Dubai international Sports conference at Madinat Jumeirah in Dubai on December 28, 2016


Antalyaspor's former Cameroon international striker Samuel Eto'o is not for sale, the Turkish club's chairman said Saturday, ending months of speculation over a move within Turkey or overseas.
Persistent speculation linking Eto'o with a move to last season'sSuper Lig champions Besiktas heightened last week when Eto'o was seen training with the Istanbul side during their camp in Antalya.
Meanwhile there had also been talk of a move for the much-travelled player back to England, where Hull City were reported to be interested.
But Antalyaspor club chairman Ali Safak Ozturk said the club had decided to hold on to Eto'o.
"Great targets are only achieved with great deeds and people," he said, quoted by the Fanatik sports website.
"There has been various gossip about a transfer for Eto'o. We talked to the good people of our city and decided not to sell our captain, whatever happens."
In a bizarre exchange with Eto'o at the club, he asked the player "Do you love Antalyaspor? Are you staying?" Eto'o replied "Yes" on both occasions, Fanatik said.
The former Barcelona, Inter Milan and Chelsea star had moved to Antalyaspor in June 2015 as the keystone of the bid of the club from the southern Mediterranean resort city to find national and even European success.
But success has been hard to come by even with the big name and highly-paid star and the club are currently wallowing mid-table in ninth.
He was also dropped in September after apparently accusing the club of racism on social media but then reinstated.
Eto'o also faces legal worries after Spanish prosecutors have asked he be handed a 10-year jail sentence and pay a 14.3-million-euro ($15 million) fine for alleged tax fraud from 2006 to 2009 when he was a striker at Barcelona.
Turkey is the latest stop in Eto'o's eclectic career which has taken him to high-profile and lesser known football hotspots around the world.
He played between 2011-2013 for Russian side Anzhi Makhachkala in the Caucasus region of Dagestan before the owner pulled the plug on its ambitions.



Mixing Ankara prints is for the bold and style lover and they can be done in exciting ways.

Ankara mix & match styles are fierce looks to try when looking to make statements and daring to pull off the bold trend. The versatile fabric works well against different skintones so most times, the prints are just fine on varying skintones.

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Ankara Mix & Match style
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Mix and match styles can be done in contrasting Ankara prints, denim paired with Ankara prints or done in a patchwork, lace mixes, Ankara with sheer inserts, contrasting prints and different fabrics as desired.
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It's important to style the already bold (and usually busy) look minimally so the style is the main focus of the getup.
Check out 10 different Ankara mix & match styles curated off Instagram to recreate for the weekend.
Daniel Wilson


Daniel Wilson is convinced that President Buhari scammed Nigerians and that his change slogan was another tool in his elaborate scheme.

The popular singer took a swipe at the president in a statement about his newly released song, Never Again.
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Daniel Wilson
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He said, “My wish is to revolutionize the political terrain in Nigeria through the use of pop culture, music and other forms of the art, strengthening a political awareness among our young people, getting them to better understand what is wrong with our country, helping them to develop a vision for a much better country for a progressive change in our country, not this sham they call change.”
Wilson described the All Progressive Congress APC as the worst thing to happen to Nigeria and he would not be alone in his assessment.
Many entertainers have expressed disappointment in the Buhari regime as the situation of the country has taken a turn for the worse since his election into power in 2015.
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In the ways of fellow old timers such as Fela Anikulapo-Kuti,Sikiru Ayinde Barrister and the like, Wilson tackles the failures of the government in his new track which speaks of revolution for the Nigerian people.
Wilson made waves with his music back in the 1990's with tracks such as '999' leaving a lasting impression.

Dija and her father on her wedding day


A photo from Di’ja's wedding to Rotimi in 2015 in Kaduna has surfaced online.

Di'ja who tied the knot in a secret ceremony can be seen in an adorable shot with her dad.
The duo look to be enjoying a father and daughter moment before she takes the final step into her matrimonial home 
Today the Mavin artiste also released a photo of her husbandand her son.
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Dija and her father on her wedding day
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Di'ja who is a Sierra Leonean-Nigerian can be seen wearing an aso-oke to honour her husband’s Yoruba heritage.
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Di'ja and baby strike a mummy and me pose
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In an exclusive interview with Linda Ikeji's blog, Hadiza Salma Blell shared the reasons why she had a secret wedding to her husband Rotimi.
"It was very intimate and it was also in my home town, Kaduna, so it’s kind of hard to get people to come over there and then Kaduna is not as ‘Noisy’ as Lagos.
"So anything like that could be probably called low key. I just don’t translate them into being posted on my page. And I guess in the ‘Post it’ ‘Tweet it’ world; you almost kind of look abnormal if you don’t
"But it’s not like am going out of my way not to, i guess it’s just not in my character to do it all the time, but I'm also getting better at my Instagram. "
Di'ja explained that she keeps most of her family life, especially when it comes to her husband, to herself, not to be secretive but because that's the kind of person she is.
But it seems like she already has a change of mind!
Tiwa Savage and Jamil Balogun


Tiwa Savage recently jetted out of the country with her little boy, Jamil Balogun.

The duo were snapped in the first class wing of the plane looking cozy.  "And we are off," she captioned the adorable shot.
Jam Jam looks so sweet!
Gov. Nyesom Wike


The Rivers state Governor, Nyesom Wike has promised to stand by the policemen who were dismissed by the police force.

According to the force authorities, the security agents attached to the Governor misused their weapons during the December 10, 2016 rerun elections.
Wike said the Rivers state government will pursue the case of the affected policemen through legal means.
He said this while welcoming the former All Progressives Congress (APC) chieftain and Former Ahoada East Local Government Chairman, Cassidy Ikegbidi, who defected to the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP).
According to Vanguard, Wike said “They gave me policemen for my protection, but before I knew it, they have dismissed them. They think they are punishing them , but Rivers State will stand with them forever.
“By the time we finish, they will realise that they have favoured the so-called dismissed policemen. In Rivers State, we don’t abandon people. No amount of intimidation, will make me abandon these innocent policemen.”
The Governor also added that “The Policemen committed no offence. Simply because they followed their boss, they said they should be dismissed.
“They want to discourage policemen from protecting me. For me, I am not worried. I am a village man and a grassroots politician. Before you kill me, you would have killed so many people”
“Nobody will intimidate me to change my mind. If you like bug my phone. As far as I will never plan coup, I will never be afraid. A man with the people will never beg those who are bent on intimidating us.
“The blood pressure of APC leaders is extremely high. I will continue to make their blood pressure grow higher. From now on, I have changed my name from high tension to Mr Project,” he added.
This is coming after the Rivers chapter of the APC accused Governor Nyesom Wike of destroying the careers of the police officers who were dismissed by the force.

Niger Delta Avengers

The leader of the Niger Delta Peoples Democratic Front (NDPDF), General Playboy has said that the problem of the militants in the Niger Delta is beyond amnesty allowances for ex-militants.

According to Punch, the militant leader said the struggle will not stop even if the Federal Government pays the backlog of salaries owed the former war lords.
He also called on the government to release the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), Nnamdi Kanu, adding that there is no Niger Delta without Biafra.General Playboy said “The problem of Niger Delta is not about paying stipends or allowances to former militants. Some of the people, who embraced amnesty, were not the real agitators and so, they are not part of the struggle.
“The Niger Delta issue is beyond the payment of backlog of allowances. That is not what we are looking for. If you want peace, release Nnamdi Kanu. There can never be Niger Delta without Biafra.
“The Federal Government should face the real issue. Allowance payment or declaring a new amnesty programme is not the issue.
“For President Buhari to continue to hold Nnamdi Kanu, even when the whole world has told him to release him, shows that he (President) is not ready for peace.”
This is coming after the Niger Delta Avengers (NDA) sent messages to its fighters to prepare for war against the enemies of the Niger Delta.

Celebrating your partner’s birthday in a manner that will make them not forget quickly should always be a concern of yours.

After a while, you might get stuck on the matter of what to do to mark the occasion. That is, you’ll want to do something you have never done before.
  As surprise party works, sometimes (Framepool)

If you are at that stage, here are few things that should inspire you or give you some fresh ideas

Surprise birthday party

If you have never done this, maybe now is the time to. You do not need the whole estate dear.
To cut costs, invite maybe just two of his/her friends and two of yours. Should be fun.

Decorate their room or office

With the assistance of his/her colleague or someone at their work place, you could decorate their office with balloons and other beautiful things.
  Maybe you could decorate their office, too (RGBStock)

An alternative is to get the assistance of a family member, and decorate their room.

Cook their favorite foods

For women [and men, too], if you are the type that enjoys cooking, then, by all means, you could spoil him silly with two or three of his favorite meals.
It might be serious hard work, but if you are down for it, then you should do it.
Get few candles and light the room. Put on something really nice and make the effort to complement the food with some good looks. Apply little makeup, and get that party started.
He won’t forget easily.
  You could also choose to prepare some of his favourite meals (Mademenoire)

Little surprises

I once attempted to send someone 24 text messages on her birthday; that’s one for the whole 24 hours of the day.
Sadly, I ended up sending just seven or eight, but of course she appreciated it a lot because, frankly, receiving 8 beautifully-written mini poems is quite heartwarming.
Now you might not necessarily do this, but think of some little things you could do.
The cumulative result should sweep them off their feet.
  Get away to an hotel room and be alone (AsianAdventure)

Book a hotel room

For married couples and those who are already intimate to that level, you could book into a nice hotel room for your partner’s birthday.
I’ll let you decide what you do when you get into the room [of course!]

A trip down memory lane

American rapper, Kanye West, recently did something like this for his wife, Kim Kardashian.
He did a compilation of videos from when she was a little girl till when she was about 18 or thereabouts.
Though there might be no video records of your partner to work with, but with some determination, you can pull this off, too.
Get a compilation of pictures from your partner’s mother, and create a slide with their favorite music playing in the background.
  You could create some magic with romantic session of birthday sex (123rf)

And at the end of the video, you could add a clip of yourself wishing them a happy birthday and telling him/her that you have one more surprise for them when you both see later in the day.
And that surprise will be…

Birthday sex

Even if you both have been married for a while and have done this a number of times, you should still make it a bit more special than previous times.
Get candles, get some roses on the bed [or some other preferred location in the house] if can afford them, and put on some new sexy lingerie [or any other sexy stuff your partner likes]
The point is to make the occasion a special one, and you should indeed make it so

How does a man know that a woman really likes him?

What are the things to watch out for?
When you notice her doing many of these six things listed below for you, you should know that she really does like you, for she would never do them for someone who does not really mean much to her.
  Here are the things a woman only does for a guy when she really really likes (Matchie)

She lets her jealousy show

Girls generally like to hide their jealousy because to do this, it means they are willing to let their vulnerability show, and they would never do that unless they really like you.
That’s the only time it’s ever worth it.

Dress up

This does not necessarily mean she wears her best dress every time just for you, it means she actually makes effort to impress you.
Things every true lover should never ever forget  When a girl tell you her deepest, dirtiest secrets, it can only mean one thing - she likes you (Shutterstock)

Reveals her deepest secrets

While girls might tell people some parts of themselves, they reserve their deepest, most intimate, even darkest and dirtiest secrets to someone they really trust, someone they truly like.

Admits her feelings for you

Women hate putting their feelings out there except they can no longer help it.
So if she’s spilling her heart out to you, believe her, she has to really mean it.
 When two people love each other equally, it is akways a beautiful thing (Pinterest)

Makes you food

Ok. This might be a bit general, but this article will not be so complete without adding this.
It might be because she is just nice, but of course, if she always invites you over to come enjoy homemade meals, just know there is a special feeling attached to it.

Allows you treat her badly

If she likes you, then she’ll let you get away with a lot more than you should.
Things that other men [and even her own friends] will never get away with, she'll permit them if it's you doing them.
This is not an excuse to intentionally maltreat women. But, if by chance, you are yet to really get your act right, and a woman repeatedly lets you go scot free, best believe she really likes you.

When a man really likes a woman, how does she know?

What are the things he does that almost always point to the fact that he is genuinely dedicated to her only?
Does he refuse to look or speak to other woman at all, or does he just follow her everywhere she goes?
This article explains five of the things a man does only if he sincerely, genuinely likes a woman.
  Remembering little details you drop during conversations will be no problem for him (Huffington Post)

Remembers details you tell him

Now this is not to say that when a man forgets details, he does not love you.
What this means is that due to the nature of males being less-organised and worse listeners than women, men most times forget stuff almost as soon as they are told, especially if those things are 'trivial'.

So, in the situation where a man remembers every thing... I mean, every single thing you tell him, then, almost certainly, that man does really like you.
  He never makes you question your importance to him (Internet Videos)

Never makes you doubt your importance

Let the obvious be stated once again: men are naturally inclined to be polygamous.
There is a tendency in every man to want to stray, to sample more than one fruit from the tree... and with the abundance if willing women, it is usually not a hard thing to accomplish.
When a man actively reins in this tendency, and goes extra mile to prove to you in words and deeds that he wants no one else but you, best believe him.
  If he is always there for you, he does really like you (Shutterstock)

Always there for you

Night and day, rain or sunshine, he is willing to do all he can whenever you ask.
That's a sign that he really, really likes you.

Speaks of a future with you in it

When he speaks of his plans for the next six months, he mentions you in it. His plans for the next two years, your name pops up.

Even when he's talking about his plans for the next five years, he somehow manages to fit you in it, what else does that tell you, apart from the fact that he genuinely likes you?
  If he speaks of a future with you in it, he likes you (Narodni)

Brags about you

In all likelihood, a very large percentage of persons aged 20 and above must have been in a relationship with at least two people.
So when a guy continually brags about you  to his friends, your friends, and anyone who cares to listen that you are the best thing to ever happen to him and that he does not think there is anyone in this life that he could ever love as much as he loves you, then you just have to know that that is a guy who likes you very much.

Due to certain reasons, many relationships do not get to last forever as the lovers dreamt they would.

While that might look and feel terrible at the time, it could be advantageous for subsequent love affairs.
Here are four ways your bad love experiences could make life easier for you in subsequent relationships.

You know when to leave a relationship Sometimes, people stay in a relationship even when it is obviously wrong to do so.
 Old retionships can teach you to know when to hold on and when it no longer makes sense to (Wordpress)

They stay long in the toxicity, hoping for a change that will not come until they get fed up and move on.
In subsequent relationships, due to the experience gained already, such people will recognise the moment a relationship becomes irredeemable, and move on at the very right time.

You learn how to argue without ending a relationship

If you have been in a relationship that ended due to yelling and fighting, and you recognize your role in that breakup, there is every chance that in a new affair, you’d have learnt the skill of expressing your unhappiness without tearing down your partner, and your relationship.
  You'll learn how to argue without having the fight end your relationship (On The Reel)

You know what you do not want

One of the best things to take out of a bad relationship is a better idea of things you cannot put up with in a relationship.
If you exit a bad relationship because of your partner’s continuous neglect of his responsibilities to you, surely, before entering into a new relationship, one of the things you will be sure to watch out for, is a man who takes his responsibilities serious.
It’s only natural to avoid the same bad things happening twice.

You learn you're still imperfect

When you look back on your old relationships and how they ended, one of the things you might recognise is that you were not entirely faultless for the way they ended.
  You'll learn of your own imperfection (YouTube)

And there, is one of the ways your new relationship gets to benefit from those past relationships.
Instead of relaxing, thinking you already know everything about how relationships go, you approach the relationship with a firm idea in your mind of that flaw and the realisation that it has the capability to ruin this present relationship like it did one or some of the previous ones.
The difference between then and now, however, is that you will not allow it ruin the beautiful thing you just found.
Will you?

It might appear that some guys just find it naturally, effortlessly easy to approach any woman of their choice.

For you, on the other hand, you get scared to approach any woman you find attractive, and no matter how easy it appears to just walk up to her, strike up a conversation and set the ball rolling,  you just never seem to know how to go about it.
Well, the five things listed below are just exactly the things you need to break free from shyness and get yourself the girl.

Focus on yourself and build confidence first

These things occur from inside out. When you build on your confidence and become surer of yourself and who you are and what you are capable of, you are about 55% above shyness and fear of approaching women.
Focus on yourself and build confidence first (Shutterstock)

Women think differently

Have you not seen instances where a woman ends up with a guy who you, as a guy, thought she couldn't ever end up with?
No matter how gorgeous and out-of-this-world she might look, she remains a woman, a human being like you.
Being scared that she won't be interested in you, and growing timid for this reason is a very wrong move.
You never can tell what she wants, or what she finds attractive. Who says you are not the ideal image of what she wants?

Develop a rapport with women you are not attracted to

Try to become friends with as many women as possible. By doing this, you could learn how to relate with women without the pressure of trying to impress  or appear cool.
When you successfully reach this level, you can be assured that somehow, you can hold a conversation with women without stress.
This will greatly simplify your task of talking to women in future situations.
  Develop a rapport with women you are not attracted to (Shutterstock)

Become boyfriend material

Now consider this: why are you shy? What exactly is the reason behind your fear and trepidation when it comes to approaching  women?

Could it be because you know that you are far from what that woman would want? Then work on yourself and become what a woman wants.
When you work on several aspects of yourself and get close to an image of what many women would want their ideal man to look like, a kind of boldness comes from this, and with boldness, your shyness melts away considerably.
  Realise that rejection is part of the game (Joy 105)

Rejection is part of the game

There are only two things that can happen when you ask a lady out. She either says yes or say no.
Ok. The manner of rejection could be embarrassing sometimes, but hey, it's just that - rejection, and it's totally acceptable.
When you get rejected, you move on and shoot your shot in another loop.
Winners do not quit, right?

Women who have been with a man for seven years or more see their sex drive reduce while the single ones in that same duration maintain the same level of libido.

According to a study involving about 2,173 women, which was jointly conducted by University of Turku and Abo Akademi University in Finland, sex drive of women somehow decrease over time when they are with the same partner.
  Women's Libido reduces with the longevity of their relationships (Alec Baldwin)

The study, published Psychology Medicine, tries to understand female sexual desire, satisfaction and frequency of orgasms over a period of seven years, and also tries to understand the role played by their relationship status in these things.

The most baffling outcome of this research is that long-term relationships tend to have a negative impact on the way women desire sex.
 Whether or not the sex drive reduces, your ability to achieve orgasm remains unaffected, the research says. (Pulse Ghana)

While the desire for sex reduces, the ability to achieve orgasm remains the same.
So, while it might be worrying that you will not be very eager to have sex regularly, you can be sure that whenever you feel up to it, you can still enjoy sexual activity to the fullest.



I see people ask questions like, How do I know He will consider me for marriage? How do I know she’s going to stay with me forever? And if you’re asking the same question, I’ll say you need to learn … How to Know if Your Relationship will Lead to Marriage

Hey, you! I know you want to have a successful relationship and would even want a relationship that will go beyond the nuptials. And I am willing to help you – if you’re ready to help yourself.

Let me make you feel high for a moment, okay? Winks.

I know you’ve found your heartthrob. Your lover is someone you can be proud of even in your dreams. Whenever you’re with them, you wish you’re teleported to a new planet with impeccable atmosphere to house the two of you in the hope to bask in an endless joy…. Forever!
Obviously, the aura around your newly found love is beyond the scope of ecstasy. Then you look into the future and there lies the bliss that words can’t help describe.

Oolalacious.

You tell yourself, heaven has smiled on you, favoured you beyond the measure of your expectations. And it’s such an experience you can frolic about all day long.
Your lover on their own wouldn’t do less: each moment with them is a proof that true and undying love exists since your shadows can tell of the magnanimous rhythms surrounding the love affair.
A look into your lover’s eyes is all you need to confirm that the union has been perpetuated in commitment and ceaseless romantic streaks.
As if that’s not enough…
They keep on telling you that you’ve got no rival. You’re the best thing that ever happened to them. In response to the romantic gesture, you watch your heart beats to each syllable that finds its way out of their lips. What more could love give – you wouldn’t stop to wonder!
Isn’t it lovely to be in such a relationship? Isn’t it great to be in love with someone who would make you feel so special until the end of the world?
You know the answer!
Hey, sit up… Leave that moment for once and let’s do reality. Winks.

How to Know if Your Relationship will Lead to Marriage?

First of all, let’s Take about Love and Relationship

Let’s start with these Common Sense Tips for a Successful Relationship
  1. Change is the first constant thing in a relationship

It’s good that you find someone whom you love and appears gorgeous to you…. But all you see in them today has limits; don’t be surprised that the reason why you want to die for your lover today might be the reason you don’t want to see him/her tomorrow.
  1. No relationship can be run on autopilot

If you want your relationship to continue working, you must not stop working on it. The fact that your Lover has everything that answers to your financial, mental and moral needs is no guarantee that they will do well in a relationship. One thing is for them to have it all, and another thing is for them to want to use it all to the advantage of the relationship.
  1. Don’t rely only on feelings

It’s defeating to see that people now enter a relationship on the premise of feelings. They just jump headlong because they think they share a romantic feeling with the opposite sex without knowing that feelings end in relationships!
Do want to read more Common Sense Tips for Successful Relationships? You’ll find a link at the end of this post.
If you agree with those common sense tips… Continue with me… If you don’t agree with them, just close this page and go sleep.

NOW GIVE ME YOUR EARS

Well, in my little years as a relationship counselor, I’ve seen more than my brain can carry as far as a relationship is concerned. To be factual, I am beginning to see the youths of these 21st century wallowing in unimaginable defeat in the bid to find love and sustain it.
People start relationships with feelings but end it with reasons.
You hear folks who say *Ehm… I had great feelings for him when we started* and another one would say *See… She was so loving, humble and respectful when we met*…
Few months down the line, their once upon a time romance turned sour, the feelings they once had nosedived and they discovered right there that they are heading nowhere again!
Now you begin to hear, “He’s not caring… She nags too much… He’s too proud…. He cheats on me… She takes me for granted…” Surprisingly, most of those reasons were not there when they started. They blindly followed a path that led nowhere!
It’s one of those bizarre experiences for those who have once been caught up in the scenario. Thinking about this menace, I wouldn’t help but sigh!

Let me ask you a question:

Do you think there’s really no more love in a relationship when people get tired of it?
If you say yes, you might be wrong!
For you to know, most people get to the point where it’ll appear that nothing new will ever come out of their relationship anymore. And it’s not just that these people don’t have a residual affection for their partners again…
They are just the victims of what I call…. The Mirage Tales in Romantic Relationships.
So, how do you know that your relationship is bound to last? How do you make your relationship lead to Marriage?
The answer is readily available if you’ll read on.
Let’s Consider this Quote:
A vision without a task is but a dream,

A task without a vision is drudgery,
A vision and a task is the hope of the world.
Dinah Craik.

Did that quote up there say something to you?

Wait! Go back to the quote and read it again, slowly. Read it twice or three times to let it sink, and we will continue.
My friend, have you once had one of those lovely dreams in which you wake up defeated and would almost fight the one that woke you up?
But no matter how the merriment feelings last in the dreamland, you just have to wake up and be back to your status quo the moment reality dawns on you. True or True?

Today, many relationships are perpetually in the dreamland. And some are not ready to wake up from their little slumbers.

See this: You just heard that a new phone came out last weekend and you went straight to a dealer to buy one for yourself. When you got home everyone was intrigued about the functions and even the look of your phone, so the atmosphere left you in an indescribable awe.
The truth is, the phone will undoubtedly be sold at a lower price than the purchase price, even if you’ve not used it at all.
That’s life for you, and that’s how many relationships are – they begin to lose value the moment they are started!
Now let’s go back to the quote.
A vision without a task is but a dream,
A task without a vision is drudgery,
A vision and a task is the hope of the world.
Dinah Craik.

1st phrase: A vision without a task is but a dream.

All that you discuss about the future is a vision that needs tasks to materialize. And without a mission, there’s no task to help the mission.
Let me simplify that:

Do You Plan the Future Together, Reasonably?

When you start a relationship, you often promise each other heaven and earth –  that’s Vision.
But do you know nothing will happen until you begin to do something about the spoken words?
Doing something about it is the mission, and what you are doing per time is a task.
If I say I promise to build a mansion for you in three years and I’m not doing any reasonable thing on a timely basis, the mansion won’t be built forever.

2nd Phrase: a task without a vision is drudgery.

It’s stupid to be doing stuff in your relationship and seeing that it’s leading nowhere close to Marriage. Whatever you do together in a relationship (that’s a task), without thinking about the future (vision) will lead you nowhere.

3rd Phrase: a vision and a task is the hope of the world

The hope that you and your partner will last is hidden in what you do together.
So, if you see that you and your partner are doing some reasonable things together towards being together in the future… There’s a chance they don’t want to lose you.
Do you understand now?
Well, that’s the end of part one.

NOW, PART TWO

Are You Proud of Your Role in the Relationship?
Can you remember the story of the blind man in the post about the factors to consider before starting a relationship?

We will go back to it…

You’re going on a journey with someone who you think knows the way but unfortunately doesn’t know much. And instead of solely relying on their knowledge, you go ahead to get some GPS navigation system to help.
Then each time the driver wants to go in the wrong direction, you make them know and they get on the right path. How do you think the driver will see you, compared to someone who wouldn’t mind to help?
They will surely love you and will regard you with feelings of respect and reverence.
So… If you’re in a Relationship and won’t do anything to help the relationship better, you’re an old chump! If your partner can’t look at you someday and be glad they met you as they state what they’ve gained since they met you, you’re beautifully stupid! Wait… I am not sorry for those words!

Have you once asked yourself why do you think someone will leave you for another person?

It’s simply because they found someone better! And if you can’t make yourself equal to the task, why shouldn’t they think of getting a substitute?
See, knowledge they say is power! The more you know the more you are respected and loved. You can’t just be in a relationship and all you do is to ask for stuff without giving something back to help your partner.
You wouldn’t read books that will help you grow mentally, morally, financially and spiritually; you won’t invest a dime to make yourself better and then you want a partner who would stay forever?
You have no covetable character and habit and you are as crude as you were when you started the relationship. You are so timid that the air can intimidate you.

You’re to be slapped!

To say it as it is, your relationship is going nowhere if you are not driving it where you want it to be in the nearest future.
Enough of trial and error relationships. Enough of decadent characters, defeating attitudes and demeaning habits – enough of shenanigans!

Ask Yourself This Question

If your partner comes now and says they want to call it quit, who would feel heartbroken the more?
If you feel you’ll be on the loser’s end, then it’s time to work. It’s time to start investing in yourself.
And if you are sure of yourself, your partner will think twice before they just come to tell you they are calling it quit!

Do People Love Your Person?

If people around you can’t testify that you’re lovely, caring, respectful, wonderful, adorable, then you can’t have a relationship that is going to lead to a Marriage. That’s simple because people’s say about you is enough to tell your future.

The Unexplainable Reasons

I believe you know by now that some things are beyond reasonable. You undoubtedly know that some relationships end up for reasons not known and you can beat your chest that you’ve done your best!
I understand that and that shouldn’t stop you from getting a better relationship.

In summary:

  1. If your relationship will lead to Marriage, you will be the one to drive it along the desired path.
  1. If you desire a blossoming relationship, you will work it out.
  1. Feelings alone don’t keep a relationship; there should be set goals you need to achieve together.
  1. If you and your partner are not planning towards the future in what you call a relationship, then don’t expect a thing called marriage to come out of it.
That’s all for today on…

How to Know if Your Relationshop will Lead to Marriage